Signs of Emotional Abuse
According to Maria Bogdanos, Emotional abuse is elusive. Unlike physical abuse, the people doing it and receiving it may not even know it’s happening.
It can be more harmful than physical abuse because it can undermine what we think about ourselves. It can cripple all we are meant to be as we allow something untrue to define us. Emotional abuse can happen between parent and child, husband and wife, among relatives and between friends.
The abuser projects their words, attitudes or actions onto an unsuspecting victim usually because they themselves have not dealt with childhood wounds that are now causing them to harm others.
And sadly the abuser does not see wrong in what they do they are always blaming someone else…. they take on the attitude of ” someone else is always right and i am always wrong” thereby breaking down the others persons resistance resulting in constant apology.
In the following areas, ask these questions to see if you are abusing or being abused:
Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing:
Does anyone make fun of you or put you down in front of others?
Do they tease you, use sarcasm as a way to put you down or degrade you?
When you complain do they say that “it was just a joke” and that you are too sensitive?
Do they tell you that your opinion or feelings are “wrong?”
Does anyone regularly ridicule, dismiss, disregard your opinions, thoughts, suggestions, and feelings?
Domination, control, and shame:
Do you feel that the person treats you like a child?
Do they constantly tell you you are killing them?
Do they constantly correct or chastise you because your behavior is “inappropriate?”
Do you feel you must “get permission” before going somewhere or before making even small decisions?
Do they treat you as though you are inferior to them?
Do they say you are always right and they are always wrong no matter what you do?
Do they remind you of your shortcomings?
Do they control your spending?
Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings:
Do they accuse you of something contrived in their own minds when you know it isn’t true?
Are they extremely sensitive when it comes to others making fun of them or making any kind of comment that seems to show a lack of respect?
Do they have trouble apologizing?
Do they make excuses for their behavior or tend to blame others or circumstances for their mistakes?
This list goes on and on and on…. there seems to be a fine line between emotional abuse and love
Put together by : Susan Brett”